Biblical teaching on dating and courtship
Jacob began his search for a wife in the right way. He started out with his father’s approval; he asked for and received her father’s blessing. He never learned to love her or to cleave to her as God had taught since Adam and Eve.
He still loved Rachel, even though he was married to Leah, and that was his undoing.
Historically, we know that betrothal was a commitment to marry.
However, we can learn much from the Biblical examples of it.We are all, no doubt, familiar with the treachery of Laban in giving Jacob the wrong daughter and Jacob’s honor in remaining with her in spite of his disappointment.We also know the story of Jacob later marrying Rachel also and all of the heartache that followed for an entire family. However– and here is the rub– he failed to follow through in his duty to his wife.Any husband and wife who both truly do that will have a good marriage, no matter what.Are we really any closer to understanding God’s design for romance? I think His Word leads us to see that how we choose a mate is not as important as who we allow to do the choosing.